ebwexler, Author at Endless Exhale

The Cacophony of Quiet: How the Pandemic Has Brought Us Face to Face With Ourselves

Leave a Comment / coping, COVID-19, healing, Meditation, Mindfulness, transformation / By ebwexler

I dabbled in meditation for years before I took up a regular practice. And that regular practice didn\’t last long, honestly. I am, at best, a sporadic meditator. Same with yoga. Same with writing. about fifteen years ago, though, I got serious about meditation for quite some time. It was transformative–and not always in a …

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room of mirrors

Leave a Comment / childhood, coping, healing, trauma / By ebwexler

so many pieces that had been well in placehave been broken, of latethey are all floating around the feeling of not knowingor ratherthe awareness of itblanknessopen spaceno groundis hard for anyoneright?for me it feels life-threateningthought the adult knowsall will be okay…. the four-year-olddoes NOTthe trauma that lay hidden for so longcomes rushing to the surfaceand …

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room for all of it

Leave a Comment / gratitude, healing, Reflection, transformation / By ebwexler

I know how I feel but it\’s not easily translating into words today. take what resonates, leave the rest, I guess. As a white, suburban, American, I was raised to see this holiday as a celebration. In recent years, I\’ve been shown the error of what I was taught, what I believed, what is widely …

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Engine cut off. let it cool.

1 Comment / coping, healing, trauma / By ebwexler

A dear friend reached out to me this week, overloaded by several crises. Heartbreaking situations, one piled on top of the other, a heavy load to carry. They would be crises for most folks, and this friend also has a history of early childhood trauma. I recognize trigger when I see it. She cried on …

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yes, it\’s okay

Leave a Comment / coping, COVID-19, empath, High Sensitivity, Mindfulness, politics, Self-Care, trauma / By ebwexler

yes, it\’s okayif you\’ve hit your limitif you have little or no bandwidthyesit\’s okay that is where I am right now.note: this is not a post for pityI am not seeking attentionI feel like a wrung-out ragand I want to say it out loudfor meand alsofor anyone who should find thiswho has also hit their …

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going to get her, over and over: reclaiming the pieces

Leave a Comment / childhood, healing, Inspiration, transformation, trauma / By ebwexler

Written in a workshop with Beth Dunnington, August 2020 I started doing this thing, this imagery thing, when my PTSD got triggered….maybe fifteen years ago. Maybe more. I don\’t recall exactly when, but the images are in my mind forever. My four-year-old–the age I was when the traumas happened–needs me. She is in the bedroom …

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the struggle is real

Leave a Comment / coping, COVID-19, empath, High Sensitivity, politics, trauma / By ebwexler

Really, really hard times we are living in. A political situation that is beyond politics. It\’s….about morals. About humanity. There is so much anger and aggression and conflict. It\’s getting deadly now-literally. A worldwide pandemic that has brought the planet to its knees. The few things we are beginning to know less than a year …

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Physical therapy

Leave a Comment / coping, COVID-19, healing, High Sensitivity, Self-Care, trauma-sensitive / By ebwexler

I laid on the table today, face down, while he worked out my fascia (which he called \”all twisted up\”–oh, is THAT why my back hurts??). It was just us in his office. He had to let his administrative person go, because the business is suffering in COVID-19. He took my temperature himself when I …

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a small cog in the wheel (or, how to deal with hopelessness about change)

Leave a Comment / activism, being of service, politics, transformation / By ebwexler

(this was originally a comment on a thread on a Facebook post, where someone said they felt that speaking out–especially to folks who have opposing views to us, right now, is, while admirable, \”hopeless\”. This was a good person-and a person of all of the privilege you can have in our society.) I\’m a clinical …

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So many had it worse…why we minimize trauma

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I was a therapist for a long time. I treated a lot of people with severe trauma histories. And every last one of them sat across from me at some point and said: \”Yeah, it was bad….but at least….\”\”my sister had it worse…\”\”I have seen so many other people go through harder stuff…\” Every. Single. …

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